In a relationship, you’d think the excitement over ~the sex~ would be pretty high for both you and your partner at the very start of things.
It’s new! It’s exciting! It’s a new penis you haven’t been looking at for 87 years and counting!
Well, ladies, it turns out your boyfriend may not be as excited as you are about things in the bedroom toward the beginning of your relationship.
DrEd surveyed over 1,000 Americans and 1,000 Europeans about their sexual preferences and how those changed over time in their relationship. And researchers found men and women were a little different in terms of how sexually satisfied they were.
At the very start of a relationship, while 74 percent of women were seriously satisfied with their sex life, men weren’t as thrilled. Only 51 percent of men reported they were satisfied in the bedroom during the first six months of a relationship.
Over time, though, men and women’s satisfaction seemed to switch around.
While the percent of sexually satisfied women dropped significantly — falling to 47 percent — between six months and a year into a relationship, men’s sexual satisfaction actually increased to 65 percent during that time.
On the other hand, women then perked up a little, with 56 percent saying they were happy with their sex lives after two to three years with someone (likely because their partners finally learned how to make them orgasm — sorry, don’t @ me).
But after over four years with someone, both men and women said things in the bedroom were all-around unsatisfying, with everyone reporting the lowest sexual satisfaction overall.Well, the unhappiness could boil down to communication (or a lack thereof) with your partner about what you want in the bedroom. “[The dissatisfaction] was based on other things in the relationship, so we worked on communication,” one anonymous participant told the researchers.
At the end of the day, communicate with your partner about your sex wants — it’s the only way you’ll know what could be going wrong.
Another explained, “It’s all about talking to the person because the slump is usually mutual. Communication is the key to greatness.”
Growing generally dissatisfied with your sex life as the relationship goes on could also be the result of more responsibilities as a couple — and less focus on the bedroom. “The slump got worse when we had very small kids,” one participant said.
Luckily for all of us, though, we’ll probably still be just as excited for pizza and naps as we always were.